We all need physical contact with other people to have any chance at being normal. Babies need it just to survive. I have no shortage of physical contact during the day. In fact, I'm pretty sure I get more than enough. If there were a way to harness it and share it with others who don't get enough I would have more than enough to go around.
Don't get me wrong. I LOVE that Abby needs me and wants me to hold her and cuddle her but by the end of the day not only do I not need to be touched I pretty much don't want to be touched once I put her to bed. I feel overstimulated and in need of sensory deprivation. It makes it hard for me to fall asleep.
This all became clear to me last night when Randy rolled over to put his arm around me and I had to fight the urge to jump out of bed. We used to cuddle ourselves to sleep almost every night and now I wish I had the king size bed to myself most of the time.
I LOVE that Randy is very affectionate. He's always been full of hugs, butt grabs, kisses, hand holding, etc. I'm pretty sure once he leaves the house the only physical contact he gets is the occasional hand shake or accidentally bumping into a coworker in the hallway. When he gets home he plays with Abby and wrestles with her until it's time to chill out before and then I'm pretty sure he wouldn't mind a little contact with his wife.
I know that if I got some exercise before bed I would get a little release and I'd feel better. I just have to force myself to do it. I suppose all the other benefits of exercise wouldn't hurt either. If that doesn't work I'm not sure what to do about this feeling. I don't like it but I guess it's just part of the "gig" for now.
I totally relate to this. The exercise would be good. I started walking this week and even if its just a half hour, it's still time alone. Time with nobody touching me, hanging on me, elbowing me. Its wonderful. :) Also good, go for a drive. There have been many days where I was alone with the kids and I just loaded them up and took a drive. They were in their seats, I had my space and everyone was content. I hope you find something that works for you. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks... I was hoping I wasn't the only one who felt this way! This week has been better. I do wish I could just go for a drive sometimes but it would have to be naptime for her if I did that and I'd rather she slept in her crib. She doesn't like riding in the car much. She gets bored and whiney. Shoveling the driveway after she went to bed the other night was awesome so I'm going to have to force myself to do something physical.
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